[All] Are there any people like this around you?

It's really strange... I have a friend who is really... really hard to reject by my standards. He's a bit sensitive, but when two or three people get together, even if our opinions differ, he has to do what he wants to do (he joked that he'd be pissed if he didn't), and if there's a problem with the place we decided to go, we can just look for another place and go on good terms, but he gets upset because the plan is disrupted and he acts annoyed and frowns, making the atmosphere seem like he's watching his friend's reaction, and everyone can think this way or that in any situation, but even though I understand that it's different, he says things like "that person just can't do it" and kind of puts it down. Yeah, it can be different, but in the end, it ends up like "that person is like this and that, so I think it's wrong"? I also reject things I don't want to do, but I keep asking until he says... until he gets tired of it and says "okay, okay".

If I keep refusing and change the subject, she'll eventually ask, "What are you going to do? Are you going to say it? Are you going to say it?" I've already refused and I'm still refusing...? If I change the subject, she'll say no if she's tactful, but why do she keep asking?

One time, he kept doing that so much that I suddenly became serious without realizing it, and my friend was flustered and tried to avoid the situation by saying let's go. When I saw that, I just laughed and refused, and I started blaming myself for making the situation worse.

But the problem is that I thought it was just me who was sensitive, but when I listened to the story that my friend told me about his troubles in interpersonal relationships, it was funny that I wasn't the only one who did this ㅋㅋㅋ I heard that other people had similar reasons for their relationships breaking up or that they said things like "I know you can't say no, but you're doing this on purpose. It feels like you're using people." Even in situations where there are many people together, if they don't like something, rather than trying to coordinate opinions, they just get lost and go it alone ㅋㅋ But if they have to move together, it's hard for other people. If you have to follow them; it's hard because you have to do this and that, so I feel like I'm going crazy every time we do this and that ㅋㅋㅋ When I said that I've given up and that I need to make multiple plans, not just plan A, but BCD, when I heard that, I said "That person doesn't think inflexibly" and that that person is the problem ㅋㅋ This is just the tip of the iceberg, there's so much more .. ha .. It's not just that person's problem, I have problems too and I need to talk about these things to solve them I've said it before, just quietly and a little bit... I was upset about this and I think I did something wrong at the time... but people don't change easily. I think it's just that friend's personality... When I see him constantly saying that the other person's problem is more annoying than his own when it comes to problems with other people;

Two of us traveled to Japan (this guy really loves Japan) and he has really good stamina and I'm the opposite lol I get bruises easily and my muscles hurt easily but the weather in Japan is really crazy in the summer. It's so humid it's like I'm walking around in a jungle; I get the heat like crazy and when it's bad my eyes, nose and mouth get really wide open and I'm panting so much that I asked him in advance that it would be better to stay inside the building during noon. I guess he forgot and he just keeps on going.. Even if there's nowhere to go, since I'm in Japan, I feel like I can just step on the floor and get ready by 7am (I have to put on makeup so I get up at 6am..) and go out and go to a cafe or something but it's so humid I sweat and I waste all my stamina just walking around the street without being able to go in. I start the morning with 70 stamina, not 100, in that heat.. and I come back around 12 or 1am.. ugh.. and my other friend too The three of us went to Japan together, and one of my friends stumbled for a moment because there were so many people walking, but everyone else was able to find a way to get through. They didn't block him outright, but the Japanese people who were coming from in front of him grabbed his arm and pulled him to the side, saying that they couldn't go because of him. Looking at that, no, the road is this wide and everyone is avoiding it, but why are you saying that? This has never happened in Korea, whether it was because of you or not ㅋㅋ When this person comes to Japan, the first thing they think of is Japanese, so sometimes they say things like "because of you~". They've become completely Japanese. And when another friend ate something and said their stomach hurt, I was worried so I told them to wait 5 minutes and see if they'd get better, and I patted them on the back, but this person suddenly said that the employee must be embarrassed because of you, and that because of that expression, that person kept speaking in broken English and was concerned about our table, and honestly, I felt embarrassed. He seemed more concerned about the feelings of that unknown Japanese employee than my friend's pain; we kept gesturing that we were okay, but anyway, back to how it was, this friend had a lot of places he wanted to go, so we took breaks here and there, but thanks to that, I looked like a tomato about to collapse.. Just... at least stay still, in front of him, he said "Is it that hot? I'm fine, lol..?" Ha.. it may not seem like much, but if this goes on for a long time, emotions build up and it's really annoying to see. What does it matter if I'm hot and tired of it.. did you ask for my opinion..

Eventually, because I couldn't rest, I got two or three blisters the size of a 100 won coin on the soles of my feet, and when I walked with my legs really wobbly, people all looked at me strangely, lol.

This friend is also tall and really fast, so his one step is like my two steps lol. It hurts so much that I feel like I'm going to fall, but since we're traveling, why do I show it? I gritted my teeth and ran around like I was running, but when I stopped to change the bands on the soles of my feet, he only glanced at me for a minute or two and just kept going. There's nothing I can do, and I can't rest forever. But what's really sad is that he's my close friend, so I can at least ask him if he's okay. Even strangers do it out of courtesy. But on the last day, on the plane, he asked me for the first time, "Are you okay?" Even now... Since it's all my problem, whether it's my physical strength or anything, I just bear it even when it hurts. My feelings are important to me, so I'm grateful when he shows that he cares about me because he thinks of me. But he only did this at the end, so I got so angry...

At the hotel, when my friend fell asleep, I covered his mouth and cried quietly by myself. I felt like I couldn't stand it without crying. It was the first time I felt happy on the day I returned to Korea. He's a fun friend, but sometimes he does this and my emotions build up little by little, so I'm always on the verge of exploding with emotions stuck in my throat. I have to let it out when it happens, because if it explodes, I'll just go crazy and lose my shit.

I've heard people call me selfish sometimes, and I know that. My parents said to me, "Are you being selfish again?" while laughing at me because I would come back half-dead every time I went somewhere. I had nothing to say to them, haha. Hehe..

Although I said it like this, sometimes the child finds talking fun and there are many things to learn, and our tastes overlap, so we get along well.

It's long, as long as you don't run into anything.

Ha.. I've talked for a long time, but do you have a friend like this around you? You're close to them, but sometimes when you reject them, it's like talking to a wall, and they're a little selfish? A friend like that..